There is this guy. I’ve liked him since high school, but I haven’t told him. My friends think that I should go for it because they think that we would be great together. The thing is, I don’t want to ruin our friendship. What should I do?
Dear Friend-Zoned Female
There are reasons that you don’t want to ruin the friendship. Don’t ignore your reasoning.
Evaluate the current friendship against the possibility of a romantic relationship. If you don’t think that he’s your soul mate or can’t envision a long-term relationship, it might not be worth the risk.
If you develop feelings you should tell him. You will drive yourself insane analyzing what “could be.” Even if you come to find that he doesn’t feel the same way as you, at least you know. If his feelings aren’t the same, it doesn’t always mean that the friendship is ruined. Remember, it’s only awkward if you make it awkward.
Take the chance if you want to, not because your friends want you to. It could be the start to an awesome relationship. Some of the best relationships start as friendships.