I don’t like my boyfriend but I don’t know why. He is the “perfect” guy and all my friends are jealous. But he drives me insane. Even the nice things he does, like calling to say goodnight, piss me off. I have been with him for three years, I care about him and love him, but am starting to realize I’ve never been in love with him. On top of it all, I have been going out with my friends and guys have been asking me on dates. I decline but I catch myself thinking about them more than my boyfriend. I don’t want to be with him but I don’t want to hurt him.
Dear Single at Heart,
You need to break up with him. The sooner the better. You’re going to get annoyed and snap on him. Or worse, you’re going to go out and do something you regret. If you don’t have real feelings for someone, you shouldn’t continue the relationship. Lying that you are still in love with him isn’t beneficial for either of you.
Meet up with him, tell him you love and care about him, but don’t think the two of you are meant to be together. Apologize for hurting him, because he is going to be hurt. Break ups are hard for both people but even harder for the person being broken up with, because it isn’t their decision. Explain that you hope, with time, the end of your relationship doesn’t have to be the end of your friendship.
Enjoy being single. Go out with friends, go on dates, but don’t immediately jump into another relationship. Give yourself time and give him time before he has to see pictures of you with another dude on his social media timelines. Don’t be that asshole.